Article #79 : A Possessive Girlfriend

How many of you felt possessive about someone or something in your life? Do you think being possessive is a good thing? Well, if you ask me, I would say it doesn't make any sense if Paneer gets possessive about coriander and does not let it be used anywhere except along with it. But what if Pav gets possessive of it's bhaji when bhaji tries to team up with bajji? Doesn't it(I mean the possessiveness) seem logical here as Pav and Bhaji are made for each other? Alright, Let's explore the feeling of possessiveness from the perspective of a girlfriend today.

Before talking about the possessive girlfriend, let me introduce you to her boyfriend, Hari who comes from a small town and establishes himself as a renowned chef just like Saffron that comes from a small flower and is one of the most expensive spices in the world. Then we have his girlfriend, Pari or I must say, the possessive girlfriend Pari who is a fashion designer by profession. 

The initial days of their relationship were great. But as the time passed by, it became quite the opposite.

It all started with the PDA(Public Display of Affection). Pari wants to hold Hari's hands even in public. But Hari doesn't like it. Their conversation starts this way,

"Pari, just leave my hand. We are in a public place"

"But why? I am your girlfriend, am I not?"

"Ok let me explain. Does it sound good if we simply crush the lady's finger & Tomato and mix them together even before we start cooking them? No right? They taste good only when they are in the cooking vessel together, in fact a private zone for them and the same applies for us"

"Oh is it? Then why do you mix chillies, ginger, coriander leaves and even cumin seeds in your Rava Dosa Batter?"

"Yes, We mix them. But are we going to taste the batter that way? No right! Even they have to undergo their own process on a Dosa Pan for us to eat a tasty Rava Dosa."

"I don't know all this, I just feel holding our hands together indicates a perfect relationship"

"Yes, but on a private cooking vessel. I mean, in a private place, not in public"

"Why don't you understand that holding your hand even gives me a feel that you belong only to me?"

"Everyone knows that Bread and Jam are made for each other, it doesn't have to be explicit"

Pari gets angry and leaves the place.

The next day, Pari notices Hari shaking hands with his female fans and posing for photos closely with them. She starts saying 

"Hari, this is not fair. Yesterday you gave so many irrelevant examples for PDA and now what are you doing? Is this not PDA?"

"Common Pari, this is different. They are my fans and all they want is only one photo with me. How can I resist them? Did you see coriander leaves resisting anytime to be a part of any of the curries?"

"Oh, so you mean to say you are a coriander leaf?"

" I am just trying to explain you"

"I don't know all this. But I am not happy seeing you so close with all those ladies"

"What's wrong with you? It's just part of my profession. A coriander leaf always tries to enhance the taste of a dish"

"Thanks finally you agreed that you are a coriander leaf. I wish I could make chutney of this coriander leaf"

Pari again leaves the place angrily. 

As the vegetables get boiled on a heated stove, Hari and Pari also get boiled with the similar type of heated arguments every now and then. 

One fine day they have a party with their friends. Pari becomes possessive this time as Hari isn't giving her attention. On the other hand, Hari is simply interacting with his friends whom he met after a long time.

After the party, Pari becomes angry again and says,

"You don't care my presence. I wonder why am I even here"

"Common, you are the bay leaf in my Biryani. You don't have to be explicitly acknowledged, but must be felt with the taste."

"Oh please I understand just like how we keep Bay leaf aside, you kept me aside. And please stop talking like a chef all the time"

"But I am a Chef right?"

"You know what it's my mistake. I am breaking up with you"

"Then what about my Biryani?"

"Why do you need this Bay leaf when You are already a coriander leaf. Just make use of yourself and enhance your taste"

Saying this, Pari breaks up with Hari. 

You must be thinking that it's all Pari's fault. But from Pari's point of view, her possessiveness began with her love on Hari. 

Being possessive about someone is not bad. In fact, it's part of the love that we have on the other person. But becoming over possessive, insecure and forgetting your love towards the other person is not good. So, let's ensure that we strike a balance between our possessiveness and over possessiveness as there exists only a thin line between the two. A penny for your thoughts.